req_pq and resPQ messages

This is a minor optimization for a common case when outdated
clients are trying to use tls-only proxy and storm it with
incorrect non-tls connect attempts.

* Add link to telegram group
* Simplify private proxy examples
* More performace tips
* Change order of options in app.src to more logical

There were situations, when downstream handshake stuck and stayed in
mtp_dc_pool `pending` field forever.
With this change if downstream can't finish handshake in 8s, it will crash

* fix epmd detection on CentOS
* get rid of awk dependency

Also, replace broken IP lookup service with some others

Because of tls1.3 fixes

By providing key_share and upported_versions extensions in ServerHello

See rfc8446#section-5.1